You can be happy as much as you like. Let us begin with a quote from Abraham Lincoln. He said, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." What a beautiful idea!

People worry most of the time. People may worry about an impending danger. They may worry about their future. They may worry about their children’s future. They are unnecessarily anxious about what will happen to them. But is it necessary to worry about something you haven’t come across? Worry is mostly about future. You may plan for future. While planning, you may envisage some problems. Let those problems come to confront you directly. And rest assured that you will definitely find a solution for each problem. Remember, there is a solution for every problem. So, don’t worry, be happy.    

Living a happy life can be wonderful. Living a healthy, an optimistic, and a progressive life can be more wonderful. Living a happy life really drives away serious stresses of life and resulting diseases. Be cheerful, laugh out, concentrate your mind on the present, and carry on with your daily activities. Don’t think too much about future. Enjoy the present, and future will take care of itself. 

Have you heard Bobby McFerrin’s solo hit? I will reproduce some of the relevant portions of the lyric.

“Don’t worry, be happy
In every life we have some trouble
When you worry you make it double
Don’t worry, be happy ……” (Bobby McFerrin)

The song was released simultaneously with the movie, “Cocktail” in 1988. It became so popular that the song was used in the George H. W. Bush’s 1988 election campaign. It was used in many films and TV soundtracks in many forms. The song has conveyed its message of happiness to everyone. The simple message made a lot of people happy by telling them not to worry.

Then how can you make yourself happy? You can make yourself happy by changing your way of thinking. But some people are just contented about what is happening around in their life. They think they don’t require a change. But many people are not as happy as they want to be with their present position. They want to progress in their life.

If you too want progress, you have the greatest power of making changes in your life. If necessary, change yourself. While changing, you may come across so many difficulties. Even if you find yourself in a miserable condition, don’t worry.

“Because when you worry
Your face will frown
And that will bring everybody down
Don’t worry, be happy ………..” (Bobby McFerrin)

Another way of being happy and not to worry is just act like a child. Play with children sometimes. We all notice how most of the small children express happiness. They don’t worry. They are happy. They are just absorbed in their play. They don’t have any serious stress. They are healthy.

Involving in social networking and social relationships pave a way to happiness. In order to be happy with people, you should keep in mind that all the people are not alike.

You should accept them as what they are. Avoid clashes, arguments, and forget all kinds of bitterness.

To be happy is relatively easy. Just decide to be a happy person. Most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be (Abraham Lincoln). The choice is yours. But choose to be as happy as you can be.

If you choose to be happy as much as you like, practice the following:  

1. Be Grateful

To be grateful is a part of positive mental attitude. Be thankful to your Mom and Dad for bringing you up. Be thankful to your spouse for taking care of you. Be grateful to your helper for keeping your house clean. Be thankful to the person who cooks your daily meals. Be grateful to your neighbor for living in harmony. Be Grateful to the Almighty God for giving you a wonderful life. You have so much to be grateful for in your daily life. Be thankful to anybody or anything that deserves your gratitude.

2. Avoid Bad News

Bad news in the morning spoils the whole day. Will you be happy if you read 10 innocent people including 3 women and 2 children have been gun down somewhere in the wee hour today? Will you be happy if you read a 16 year old girl has been killed today after a gang rape? Get less doze of bad news. Starting the day with bad news is not a sensible thing to do. So, be selective in your reading. Read all the headings first, and then choose the news that will give you positive feedback and stimulation. The purpose is to keep you happy throughout the day.

3. Happiness and Religion

For some people, there is a close connection between happiness and religion. If you are religious, be a part of a religious group which performs daily rituals like singing, chanting, prayers and meditations. That will foster inner peace and bring happiness to you.

4. Manage Your Time

Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating to-do-lists and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management. These should be understood to develop an efficient time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned to include the finer points of each skill that can give you extra benefits to get the results you want. If you can manage your time well, you will be a happy person.

5. Laugh Out Everyday

Laugh out heartily every day. Read joke books. Listen to your friends who are expert in making beautiful jokes. If you know good jokes, tell your friends or family members and laugh out together. But jokes should not hurt the sentiment of any one. Spend quality time with your family with jokes, stories, and quotes of happy people.   

6. Share Your Experiences

Share your experiences with your friends and family members. Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. Don’t suppress your anger. Channelize or sublimate it. Don’t keep any ill-feeling for anybody. Instead find out effective means to express them in a better way. Don’t hurt anyone’s sentiment and cause any injury.

If you are suffering from a bad man's injustice, forgive him lest there will be two bad men (Augustine).  

7. Work Hard

There is no substitute for hard work. It is important everywhere in our life. Hard work brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of competency. If you are competent you are happy. Not only that, competency enables us to accomplish our tasks without much mistakes. It takes less time too. Accomplishment is necessary for all of us. It gives us a sense of self worth. And self worth makes you happy.

Last tips

Don’t worry. Worry gives a small thing a big shadow. A healthy person is a happy person. Learn some joyful exercises. Run, jog, walk and do other things that your organs and muscles require. These will give you physical and mental strength. And you will feel lively. These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy. Even after that you come across something undesirable,

“Don’t worry, it will soon past
Whatever it is
Don’t worry, be happy ……” (Bobby McFerrin)

Life is made up of a series of problems. And happiness lies in solving them one by one as you progress in your life. So, don’t worry, be happy.

Yours forever,
Rajendra Sagolsem 


 
Law of Attraction is a theory that suggests that you will come across whatever you think persistently in your life. If you think you will be rich one day, you will be rich one day. If you think you will quarrel with your neighbor, you will do it one day for sure. Our thought attracts or repels our actions. Positive thought attracts positive action. And negative thought attracts negative action. Many theories have been propounded since the beginning of human history. Law of attraction is one of them. This theory tells us that we can achieve anything we want simply by changing our thinking patterns. Today the law of attraction is one of the most interesting theories.

The main problem with the theory of law of attraction is the question of how thoughts alone can impact the way we do. But according to the law of attraction, an individual’s actions are controlled by their thoughts. This is a sort of subjective reality.

In subjective reality, the consciousness that exists is only your own. Since nobody is aware of how you think, you are the only person who can control your way of thinking.

Law of attraction has some important sub-laws. Here they are:

1) Law of Manifestation

This law proposes that overall consciousness is something that we ultimately choose. You can choose to be conscious so that you can have complete awareness. Though we may not completely recognize it, we constantly ask ourselves the questions that pertain to our consciousness.

2) Law of Magnetism

This law tells us about equal return for our thinking. You can attract energy of the same kind only. If you think positively, you will gain positive results. If you think negatively, you will get negative results. The energies being constantly recycled by all living creatures fill the whole Universe. So you can choose the type of energy you want to get.

3) Law of Pure Desire

This law says your desire will have a great impact on your return. If your actions and thoughts are driven by your pure desire, you can achieve what you want to achieve. In order for your desire to be pure, you must think without any fear, any doubt, or any notion of desperation. Your motives must be clear, honest and worthy.

 4) Law of Paradoxical Intent

This law tells us that situations evolve as a result of our thought. For instance, if you act in desperation, a paradox will be created. And this will result in a negative return on your intended energy. Since you are desperate in your thoughts, a certain vibration will be sent out in your environment. This vibration will have a negative impact on the world around you.

5) Law of Harmony

This law tells us about a person’s ability to gain the good things in their life. If you want to live in harmony with people and the Nature, avoid sending out negative vibrations. Sending out positive vibration is possible only if you make a conscious decision to align yourself with people around you and the flow of the Nature. This is one of the Universal laws that require the kind of absolute attention to positive thinking.

6) Law of Right Action

This law tells us that the people who do the right things in life are well rewarded. This law indicates that in order to gain experiences about value, honor and dignity, we must do our part to promote those qualities in our own surrounding. On the contrary, if we do anything to break down those important qualities, we will see those things deteriorate and erode in our own life. We should therefore constantly think about our choices. And we should keep in our mind the impact our choices might have on ourselves as well as on others.

7) Law of Expanding Influence

This law says that people have dominant power of their own personal energy. Energy constantly expands in this world. You can have a large personal positive energy. If you work hard to send out positive vibration, your positive energy can be felt throughout the world. You can make a conscious decision to live a quality life that promotes happiness for those around you. Then you will see your positive power of influence eventually expand to impact all of those people and things around you.

To be successful, all the seven sub-laws should be given equal importance. One sub-law would be completely ineffective without the other sub-laws.

You should apply the law of attraction to all aspects of your life if you want success with it. We are creatures of habit. Once you start experiencing success, you will be led to more successes. In order to be successful, you need to believe that your dream will come true. Affirmation is a part of powerful positive thinking. Affirm your commitment.

Final Tips

It is not difficult to follow the law of attraction. Once you actually start doing whatever we have discussed, things will come to their proper shape and positive results will follow. No one can deny the fact that positive thinking has a positive impact on a person’s life. If you want to truly find success, you can’t simply look at law of attraction and its sub-laws. You have to apply them to all aspects of your life. Though every action originates from our mind, consistent and persistent hard work alone can bring you success. Don’t forget to quickly take advantage of every opportunity that comes to you. Don’t wait.  Remember what Abraham Lincoln said, “Things may come to those who wait. But only the things left over by those who hustle.”   

If you are a happy, positive and enthusiastic person, people will be happy to be around you.

Yours forever,
Rajendra Sagolsem